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I wanted a closer picture but it wouldn’t SIT STILL…

This is actually a clock…

I have a thing for man hole covers.

When we’re done I will do a compilation picture of all of them.

The year is almost half way over and I haven’t found anything I think is even close to a perfect picture…

How is your search going? 

I have just  had  the most frustrating experience of my life and I am pretty sure I came away from it with The Worst Mother in the World Award.

Isabelle had a dentist appointment, nothing big, two tiny cavities needed to be filled in a couple of her baby molars. She had a cleaning two weeks ago and everything went fine. I thought this would be no problem.

 She was bright and chipper when I picked her up from school. On the drive over I talked to her a little about what the dentist would have to do and her only comment was that she didn’t like to have her mouth numb.

Her name was called, she walked into the office and sat in the chair. The Dentist came in and it all went down hill from there. She said she didn’t like to get numbed so he said let’s try it without and told her to lift her hand if she wanted it numb. He tried it, she sat up straight in her chair and started crying and saying she was done.

I begged with her, I pleaded with her, I  bribed her, all while the Dentist and Hygienist sat there and watched. Ten minutes, fifteen minutes, it went on and on, her crying, sitting straight up, gripping the arms of the chair like it was her life at stake.

It was all I could do not to yell at her… But I didn’t… if it had been just me, the two of us would still be in that room with her sitting in the chair,  we wouldn’t have left until she got the cavity filled, but it wasn’t just me.

Finally the Dentist gave up and she was given a reprieve. We left the office with a referral for a different dentist (although I don’t see the point as it would  be the same scene, different office, different day.)

I bet you think I’ve gotten to the Bad Mommy Award part, well not yet. We got in the car, not really speaking, I was so frustrated and mad at her. When Isabelle said, “I’m sorry Mom, I was scared, I did my best.”

Now here is where I get the award…

I responded in a not kind voice  ”No Isabelle, You didn’t do your best, if you had, you would have gotten your filling and it would all be over. You didn’t do your best. You weren’t brave. Now you’ll have to live with cavities and hope that all your teeth don’t fall out because you won’t go to the dentist.”

She sat there and cried some more and I apologized and told her I was hurt that she didn’t trust me, I didn’t understand why she was so scared and that I was frustrated.  

I don’t, I don’t understand why she is so scared.

We got a shake and sat for awhile in a quiet place. I took her back to school, gave her a hug and sent her off to try and make it a better day for herself.

In the mean time I came home, still frustrated and angry and not understanding.

I just don’t get it. In life my motto has always been DEAL WITH IT… Life isn’t easy and sometimes things hurt, sometimes they suck,  you just get through it…

How do I explain that to an eight year old and get her to understand it?  

Yes, I get the Worst Mother of the Year Award, at least for today…

How do you handle something you don’t understand?  Have you ever had to deal with someone else’s irrational fear?

As a parent what do you think my proper response would have been?

Oh the questions are never ending on this one… I just don’t know what to do.

WOW I can’t believe it’s been almost a week since I posted… I need to get busy and find something post worthy… Cause, well… Me posting about not posting is NOT IT!