depends on who it is………..the upcoming grudge against the electric company may be the longest one
Depends on the grudge. I’ve been known to hold one for years under the right (or is that wrong?) circumstances…
Usually I am much better after they die a slow and miserable death.
Joking.
Holy crud…….a VERY long time. Sadly I still hold a grudge at my husband…for things he has done when we first got together!!!!
I am very picky in who I to talk to…share my time with and if a person goes and hurts me purposely….I will shun them. For an example…I have a few neighbors who are gossipers who went against me….I have not talked to them for over a year and a few months and I see them every day! Once in a while they give me a fake smile and what not but I just stare at them…..I mean, what did they want/expect? There were no apologies from them. I hold a grudge with my stepson and his mother….I still hold a grudge with the in-laws….8 years now. I make small polite conversations and they are nicer now but I cannot forgive them for what they had done and they never said sorry. They will never have a chance to know the real me. Yes, I am that crazy and stubburn…sincere apologies are very important to me.
Hmmm…in church we are currently learning about mercy and forgiveness….so I feel somewhat guilty. But hey, I figure I am working on changing myself in other areas of my life…forgiveness and mercy can wait.
Later,
Gina
depends! i’ve been holding one for almost a year now, but it’s warranted
I don’t. It takes up too much of my energy. And there are much more important things in this life for me to spend my energy on.
PS Glad you got the book and goodies!!
ugh, im awful about that. once i got mad at my sister and didnt speak to her for 2 weeks… i don’t really do it anymore, but im not sure if its because i’ve grown up, or i just don’t let people bother me as much anymore…
depends on how long before my arm gets tired
Until I am done being mad. In my case, that isn’t very long.
I try very hard not to hold a grudge. It generally doesn’t bother the person on whom I’m holding it, and just makes me miserable. That said, once I have a good grudge going, I tend to never see the person again, which makes letting go of it easier.
FOREVER ….. but only if its warranted
sometimes along time and sometimes I forget it. why do you ask?
Always and ever.
Grudge! nooooooooo hurt feelings long time!
No grudges. Forgive and forget!
Hmmm… good question. Most of the time I don’t hold a grudge. However, I forgive but don’t forget, which is not always negative. You just take it as a learning experience.
By the way, I don’t update much anymore these days. Used to be xanga whore, but in some ways, xanga was causing lots of friction in my life. So I had to leave.
It depends on who the person is. If it is Evil SIL, it could be for a long time!!! Most of the time, not long.
I get lots of grunge on my clothes. I don’t really like to hold on to it at all. It’s kind of icky. The tar is the worst though. Itnever comes out. So I guess I hold onto that until I throw the stuff out. Oh and to answer your question… the best present I ever got? There isn’t a best, but I remember my aunt BA gave me a box of food when I was a teen. Gosh how I love food.
hmm, it’s not really of a grudge. if someone loses my respect, let’s just say, he’s good as a fictitious character.
I don’t hold grudges. I will accept anyone’s apology!!
I try to let go of it soon, it only hurts me if I hang onto it, and possibly the other person, too!!
Mostly, I don’t-or it’s been so long I forgot all about it, until something comes up to remind me. Like, how much of an idiot my ex is…
hmm, i know i can for a long long time.. but i haven’t been wronged much lately *knock on wood*
For the most part, probably not nearly as long as I should…although there is one person who I will definitely make an exception for…lol
Depends on the basis of the grudge (action). ie, the she-beast that made up a lie and told my gentleman friend that I was unfaithful – still rather bitter; the man who cut me off during rush hour – over it. ryc: of course, how could you not. =)
I don’t usually hold grudges…but this last episode is going to take a lonnnngggg time go get over. Bad thing about holding a grudge is that it doesn’t hurt the other person …it hurts the holder. That’s not even fair. :-/
Are you holding one?
read your comment on Fauquet’s site and wanted to comment on your “grudge” issue. Going through one myself, about 2months now. I miss my friend, but I believe in principles. in the end, it’s a precious waste of time, energy, and stress. I want to make nice, but at this point, my friend’s behaviour has been supremely unfriendly with all this chit chat about me behind my back — and I know that she just misses me and is super immature, but at this point… Don’t bother with a grudge if it is a friend. if it is NOT a friend, let it go, trust me, they will get theirs soon enough. No, sadly, you may not be there to watch with sadistic and vengeful joy, but sure enough, if you’re not there to watch, eventually you will hear about what happened and hopefully you will be at that point where you actually feel sorry for them. hopping off my soapbox, clementine
As long as it takes for them to make it right. I will let them know that they have done something against me. If they feel they have done no wrong then I feel no wrong for holding a grudge. If you don’t say anything then you have no right to complain or hold a grudge.
I don’t hold a grudge (short memory is to blame for part of that) but I also learn for experiences and base my level of trust for that person on that. I’ve been stabbed in the back a lot — I figure if I crumple and get mad and keep the fight going, they win. I don’t want that.
Not very long. I usually forget to hold a grudge.
It depends on alot of things– what made me mad, is it worth it… etc..
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I don’t,because it is to hard on me.
depends on who it is………..the upcoming grudge against the electric company may be the longest one
Depends on the grudge. I’ve been known to hold one for years under the right (or is that wrong?) circumstances…
Usually I am much better after they die a slow and miserable death.
Joking.
Holy crud…….a VERY long time. Sadly I still hold a grudge at my husband…for things he has done when we first got together!!!!
I am very picky in who I to talk to…share my time with and if a person goes and hurts me purposely….I will shun them. For an example…I have a few neighbors who are gossipers who went against me….I have not talked to them for over a year and a few months and I see them every day! Once in a while they give me a fake smile and what not but I just stare at them…..I mean, what did they want/expect? There were no apologies from them. I hold a grudge with my stepson and his mother….I still hold a grudge with the in-laws….8 years now. I make small polite conversations and they are nicer now but I cannot forgive them for what they had done and they never said sorry. They will never have a chance to know the real me. Yes, I am that crazy and stubburn…sincere apologies are very important to me.
Hmmm…in church we are currently learning about mercy and forgiveness….so I feel somewhat guilty. But hey, I figure I am working on changing myself in other areas of my life…forgiveness and mercy can wait.
Later,
Gina
depends! i’ve been holding one for almost a year now, but it’s warranted
I don’t. It takes up too much of my energy. And there are much more important things in this life for me to spend my energy on.
PS Glad you got the book and goodies!!
ugh, im awful about that. once i got mad at my sister and didnt speak to her for 2 weeks…
i don’t really do it anymore, but im not sure if its because i’ve grown up, or i just don’t let people bother me as much anymore…
depends on how long before my arm gets tired
Until I am done being mad. In my case, that isn’t very long.
I try very hard not to hold a grudge. It generally doesn’t bother the person on whom I’m holding it, and just makes me miserable. That said, once I have a good grudge going, I tend to never see the person again, which makes letting go of it easier.
FOREVER ….. but only if its warranted
sometimes along time and sometimes I forget it. why do you ask?
Always and ever.
Grudge! nooooooooo hurt feelings long time!
No grudges. Forgive and forget!
Hmmm… good question. Most of the time I don’t hold a grudge. However, I forgive but don’t forget, which is not always negative. You just take it as a learning experience.
By the way, I don’t update much anymore these days. Used to be xanga whore, but in some ways, xanga was causing lots of friction in my life. So I had to leave.
It depends on who the person is. If it is Evil SIL, it could be for a long time!!! Most of the time, not long.
I get lots of grunge on my clothes. I don’t really like to hold on to it at all. It’s kind of icky. The tar is the worst though. Itnever comes out. So I guess I hold onto that until I throw the stuff out. Oh and to answer your question… the best present I ever got? There isn’t a best, but I remember my aunt BA gave me a box of food when I was a teen. Gosh how I love food.
hmm, it’s not really of a grudge. if someone loses my respect, let’s just say, he’s good as a fictitious character.
I don’t hold grudges. I will accept anyone’s apology!!
I try to let go of it soon, it only hurts me if I hang onto it, and possibly the other person, too!!
Mostly, I don’t-or it’s been so long I forgot all about it, until something comes up to remind me. Like, how much of an idiot my ex is…
hmm, i know i can for a long long time.. but i haven’t been wronged much lately *knock on wood*
For the most part, probably not nearly as long as I should…although there is one person who I will definitely make an exception for…lol
Depends on the basis of the grudge (action). ie, the she-beast that made up a lie and told my gentleman friend that I was unfaithful – still rather bitter; the man who cut me off during rush hour – over it. ryc: of course, how could you not. =)
I don’t usually hold grudges…but this last episode is going to take a lonnnngggg time go get over. Bad thing about holding a grudge is that it doesn’t hurt the other person …it hurts the holder. That’s not even fair. :-/
Are you holding one?
read your comment on Fauquet’s site and wanted to comment on your “grudge” issue. Going through one myself, about 2months now. I miss my friend, but I believe in principles. in the end, it’s a precious waste of time, energy, and stress. I want to make nice, but at this point, my friend’s behaviour has been supremely unfriendly with all this chit chat about me behind my back — and I know that she just misses me and is super immature, but at this point… Don’t bother with a grudge if it is a friend. if it is NOT a friend, let it go, trust me, they will get theirs soon enough. No, sadly, you may not be there to watch with sadistic and vengeful joy, but sure enough, if you’re not there to watch, eventually you will hear about what happened and hopefully you will be at that point where you actually feel sorry for them.
hopping off my soapbox,
clementine
As long as it takes for them to make it right. I will let them know that they have done something against me. If they feel they have done no wrong then I feel no wrong for holding a grudge. If you don’t say anything then you have no right to complain or hold a grudge.
I don’t hold a grudge (short memory is to blame for part of that) but I also learn for experiences and base my level of trust for that person on that. I’ve been stabbed in the back a lot — I figure if I crumple and get mad and keep the fight going, they win. I don’t want that.
Not very long. I usually forget to hold a grudge.
It depends on alot of things– what made me mad, is it worth it… etc..
Why? Did you do something bad?