December 17, 2006
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Yesterday evening we were silly enough to face the crowds and venture into the insanity that is Walmart… I have a camera on my list for Christmas. Target had it on sale, but of course they were sold out, so I thought we’d look else where. Ten minutes in the store and I was on sensory overload. People crashing into each other with carts, shoving each other, and breathing down your neck. Listen mister if your close enough to read the tag on my under wear… YOUR TOO CLOSE… STEP OFF…
Okay, the monsters, yes I was dumb enough to drag the monsters along, let’s leave that one alone. All through the store they had been picking at each other. Isabelle has developed a liking for tormenting her big brother. He says he doesn’t want something and she says ‘yes, you do’… I’m sure you all get the picture as many of you have siblings or children of your own. So we were in and out of the store in a flash and on our way out of the parking lot when Charlie starts crying… He’s one of those -I have to cry, but I really don’t want to, so I’m going to try to hold them in- boys. And then the words spring from his mouth as if they too can no longer be contained.
“I never want to see the light of day again!!”
Silence descends on the car and the thought running through my mind is… I’m sure that could be arranged… But I was an adult, YES, for a change I was and asked him why.
He had been at a birthday party the night before and stayed up until one a.m. thus the tender feelings, but apparently he’d had a horrible time. The kids had played truth or dare… since when did eight year olds start doing that? They had watched television shows that I don’t let him watch, so Charlie had spent a lot of time sitting back and not participating because these were things he knew I wouldn’t like and someone kicked him in his privates. Then he said that his friend Branden had said ‘O my God.’ and when Charlie had said… “I don’t say that.” Brendan’s step father had said ”It’s just a word.” Charlie said he responded with “Is not!” and left the area. Of all those horrible things, I would think the crotch kicking would be the worse but the God thing seemed to upset him the most.
Okay, obviously I’m not happy with myself for letting him go to the party, He’s been to the house before and everything was fine but this time I think there was a lack of quality supervision… I don’t think he’ll be going back.
Any way I asked Charlie if he knew why I don’t want him to say the name God in that way. He said “It’s not nice and it’s God’s name.”
I said “yup, is God important to you?”
He said “Yes and we respect the people who are important to us.”
Can I say, I was one proud mama. He gets it and he’s only eight! I don’t know what the stupid fathers problem was. Even if you don’t believe in God… It isn’t just a word, it can never be just a word… People use it as an excuse for everything, for marriage, for WAR… GOD is not just a word, no matter how often people try to make it sound like it is. I’m not saying you have to believe in him… okay I’m on a tangent. again.
So I said “Why don’t you want to see the light of day again ?”
He said “I don’t want to go to school. I don’t like my friends.”
I said “Sleep on it, Take tomorrow off and if you still feel that way on Monday we’ll see what we can do.”
He said “I won’t have to go to school?”
I said ”No but I think I can make a pretty good blindfold, or we can put a bag over your head. ”
He said “MAAAAAMAAA!” and smiled.
Anyway…
Comments (34)
oh good lord. walmart? for shame, for shame.
What a wonderful boy your Charlie is and a wonderful mom you are! Standing up for his beliefs could not have been easy! I’m sorry the birthday party turned out to be such a bad experience for him! They are suppose to be fun. Give him a hug from me!
you are an amazing MAAAMAAAA!!!!!
Shopping for Material Goods Makes us all monsters in a way…
Charlie is precociously wise because her mom is the same
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-conversations with children about faith and religion can be a touchy subject. If you ever have the opportunity look into the film “My Mother’s Smile”, it is a bit surreal but there are a few scenes of faith/children conversations.
I absolutely commend you on the way you handled that and the way your raising your child. i know how hard it is to teach your children the right thing then to let them go out into the world knowing that there are parents out there who are not raising their children the same. it is very conflicting for the child and it’s even harder for the parent because my daughter went through the same thing and i made the mistake of telling her i didnt want her to play with those kids anymore and that made her want to be with them even more. the only thing we can do is trust God will take care of them and that they will go with what we taught them and do what is right for them ( which your son did do) and be safe or be able to take care of themselves. sorry for the long comment it’s just i know exactly how you feel. been there!!!
oh and i’ve learned a trick to holiday shopping go early in the morning before everyone gets out of bed on sat and sun that way when your in the checkout their just coming into the store and your leaving out and you get the whole store to yourself .
Poor kid! Sounds like a tough night! Bravo to both of you for handling yourselves so well! I’m not sure I would have been so graceful.
you are the best mom eva…you are so neat
I feel proud for you too.
God IS a very important word. I can only hope my 3yr old will make me as proud. As for the trip to Walmart… ugh.. I am ashamed (not really) to say that 90% of my shopping was done online, because I hate Walmart & shopping in general. It is one of those necessary evils. I never get out of Walmart without spending less than $50. Shopping online is actually pretty great-I don’t have to get out of my PJ’s, no long lines, & no traffic. Plus, you know how it is to shop with younguns. Have a good evening.
Good evening, hope all is well up there, weather got poopy here, no fishing for a while.
If you’re still looking for christmas ideas, you could get him a cup… It took me 28 years before I owned one… Just make sure you take the kids to the wall-mart, a half hour before they close christmas eve, at that point you’d all need padding you can get.
ps. there is also power in forgiveness…
I happen to love walmart. Love the banner. Kids try our patience dont they? I understand mine have been in trouble for so long and keep me guessing the other to the point I never know. I realize you have to trust them but there are times it just makes you go grey. Oh well that is life.
Do I se a beard on the banner?
Definately you!
oh my bad.
its a japanese cartoon.
you might be able to buy it at best buy.
no i know you can.
nest buy.
walmart would have it all edited up.
this cartoon is about mistakes and killing youself.
Hu-kari……ummmmmm. Hara-Kiri:!
its a cartoon shown on the weekends on adult swim on cartoon network.
most online video networks will not support it since its about death and muder.
however in the this case it was little harder to do this time around.
they tried to kill themselves many times and each time failed.
hell the guy who got hit by the train did not even die for that matter.
the show is intitles
paranoia agent
however in first release it was intitles “up and fucking die.”
for some unknown reason it was changed.
geeeeeee; ya wonder why??
anyways there are no vids from up and fucking die; everything paranoia agent.
they renamed everything.
talk about “pricey.”
its hard to find good wmv’s on paranoia agent.
good luck; its fill with violance, regret, fighting, murder and death.
its the greatest animation cartoon ever.
GREAT GOING! You have every right to be a proud mommy – it’s so good that his faith is so important to him already! God bless you!
I hate going to Wal-Mart. I start to feel claustrophobic in the parking lot as well as the store. There are always so many bad drivers and no parking spots in the Wal-Mart parking lot.
You know, I have actually had someone push their cart right into me in that store. I don’t know how they didn’t see me…
You are such a good mama for letting Charlie know that what he stands up for is important. I can’t believe those boys were so rude! I would probably not be sending him back anytime soon either.
I hate walmart too. I get in panic mode. To many people no room in the isles and no one moves. I try to avoid the place but sometimeds I just have to go. Nothing like a good sleepover to bring the best out of friends. Someone usually ends up fighting about something. Your poor son, he must have had a awful night. But he shared it with you instead of keeping it to himself. What a wonderful son. You definately are a good Mommy.
ryc: i got some bigger gloves, which seems to be helping so far
Walmart?? Boy are you a glutton for punishment! I got a deal on my dd’s camera at Circuit City. Online baby!
Your son is a good kid– and you are a GREAT mom!
I will be forced to make one more Walmart visit, but I’m going through the week during the day, which is way better. Those darn stockings just won’t stuff themselves. I let D1 go to a party against my better judgment when she was 12, and it turned out just slightly worse than Charlie’s experience. My kids don’t take the Lord’s name in vain (in front of me, because they’re teens) because that rule is one of the Top Ten. I’ve always tried to teach them to obey the Top Ten Rules. I know as a teen I didn’t always walk the walk, and am under no illusions that my teens are doing the same, but am pretty sure and praying constantly that they’ll make their way back like I did. Hang in there, keep teaching the right thing, and your kids will be fine. Remember, it’s easy to be a Christian when no one challenges you. This weekend was good practice.
ryc santa likes bad girls
Hey, Ang! You made 28 on featured content with this one.
Well, look who got featured. Congratulations. Do you ever want to see the inside of Wal-Mart again? lol
Hey Ang! I have returned! Hope to catch up with you soon!
Awwww, nice kid story! He may be eight; but he’s learning some good lessons. And, teaching him how to pick friends and stand up for what he believes is HUGELY IMPORTANT when he gets to the tween and teen years, trust me. Did I mention HUGELY IMPORTANT with enough emphasis? Just checking…
RYC: OH yes, I have a collection of cutesy Christmas sweaters. In fact, I could be a schoolteacher I have so many for darn near every holiday. My froggy vest was on clearance at Dillard’s last year after Christmas… got that for $4.99. I love after-Christmas sales. LOL
Walmart? Oh No….Its always crowded there…..espeacily at this time of the year.
Oh your poor lil son!! I know one house he will not go back to for sure!! That’s great that your son has respect for God at 8 years of age. That says alot about YOU!!! Love ya!!
Walmart, any time but especially around the holidays AND with kids…UGH!
Your son sounds like he has a good head on his shoulders, and a tender heart. That father (stepfather) was just showing what he was made of, but even better that your son showed what HE was made of. That’s a hard situation for an adult to react to if it makes them feel uncomfortable, let alone a child. You should be proud, he handled it so well.
How’s he doing today?
Good for Charlie for sticking up for himself.
RYC: Im at work not drinkin…gosh
My wife hates taking the kids to target or walmart, it’s like RAW cage match.
Good job on the blind fold though, sound like something I’d do
I must divulge that the whole thing you declare interferes with my mentality
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