October 21, 2006
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Lying, we all do it. Someone told my husband today that he believed that you shouldn’t lie at all unless a life was at stake. To which my husband composed a nicely worded response that essentially said bulls**t in a very nice way.
We all do it. Mommy is there a Santa Claus? tooth fairy? Easter Bunny? I remember the day I totally blew the Easter Bunny thing for my kids, it was awful. I convinced them that Aunt D still believed in the Bunny so we shouldn’t blow it for her. Charlie was okay with that and then he said “Well okay there’s no Easter Bunny, but Santa is real right?”
What else do we lie about? Do I look fat? Of course but am I going to tell you, no. Everyone looks skinny to me so this one isn’t a problem to me. We lie to be polite. How was the dinner I made for you with my own little hands and put my heart and effort into? It was great, wonderful. In truth it may have tasted like card board, but do we say that, no.
I think that it is impossible to navigate our society without lying a little bit. It must be in our general programming.
My friend Ruby wrote a great post today about the lies she has told her children. (I wish I could link it, but I’m not that great yet, she’s on my sub list) I used to tell my children that when they told a lie I could tell because a little red dot appeared on their forehead. This only worked until Charlie caught me in a lie. Then he said “Mom I know for a fact that your lying and there’s no dot, so you were LYING.” They forgive me for this, who knows why. Kids are mailable.
I know lying=bad. We shouldn’t do it, and it is all around easier not to. We should try to live as honestly as we can.But is it really possible to live without lying at all? Something to think about.
I’m not sure I would want to. I never want to hear ‘Yes’ from my husband on the fat question. Of course I would never ask him that either. He might just decide he wanted to be honest. You know what else, it’s fun to lie to my children, there are just some things I’m not willing to give up yet, like Santa and the tooth fairy. I’m really bad at her though, she was supposed to come and she got delayed several times for various reasons. She had a family emergency once, she couldn’t cross the bedroom floor she was afraid she would break her neck, and once she got arrested by accident because it was halloween and the police thought she was a regular person trying to break into someones house, this one Isabelle came up with. All I said was that must be it. Those things are much more soothing then Mommy accidentally fell asleep because she was exhausted and forgot…
Then there are some lies that are just for your childrens’ own protection. My parents used to shut their bed room door and balance the check book…actually that wasn’t a lie, that’s what they were doing really. Please God that has to be what they were doing!
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OOPS… MAILABLE KIDS, was Aaron the only one who caught that or were the rest of you just being to polite to point it out?
If you did see it and you didn’t say anything, that is a LIE of omission!!!! So see! Ang
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I have never told a single lie in my life … hehe
btw, thanks for stopping by and have a good weekend …
There’s no Easter Bunny?!?!?!
Yeah, what are you talking about no bunny.
Linking is super easy. I will tell you how.
Call me.
You crack me up. Do you ever think that God looks down at his people (all of them, not just the ones who claim Him) and says “What the hell? I could SWEAR I told Moses ‘Thou Shalt Not Lie!’” I think he throws His hands up in the air and shakes his head, probably muttering under his breath. My theory is that’s what thunder is: God muttering under his breath.
RYC: I’m hoping to be better today and post a picture or two for your enjoyment. I’m in Barcelona, functioning on 4 hours’ sleep; and doing Xanga before the work I HAVE to get done today. I have some key deliverables (gosh, could I sound more corporate?) that I have to get done today; then I hope to carve out a little time to see some of Barcelona and snap some photos. There’s a shopping mall next door and the ocean is about a block away… that seems promising. It’s the no sleep thing that’s killing me right now… but, with Diet Coke in hand; I can conquer the world, right?? LOL
some lies are constructive….it really depends in the situation….
“balancing the checkbook” ha ha ha!!!! Why didn’t I think of that?
Very very cool post, and yep we all fib once in a while. Sometimes lies just sound better than the truth.
Have a good week-end
Ryc look out for the kids fingers, funny things get attached to them. heh heh
ryc: clever, clever. it took me a minute.
papi you boob^^^
look I agree with you, if you tell the truth, your called a bitch/asshole, but bend the truth to be PC yeah we all do it,sales, kids, dieing people, beauty questions, you arre right, and you should know your parents where not balancing the check book
mailable kids!??!! how many stamps does that take???
i miss you dont tell anyone i was here, im back to the water but wanted to say hi.
ssshhhhh….about a week or so left then maybe i can get over all this….
miss you
Funny, lol. We don’t balance the checkbook.. we are “talking”, lol.
As a single father, with full custody of little Ned, I understand the lying game all to well. Can’t tell him that his mother is a no good, cheating, back stabbing, coked out whore, now can I? (jk)
balancing the checkbook? that is great!
I thought I was the only mother who had to make excuses for the tooth fairy being late!
Oh wow…lying is essential sometimes…sorry..but true!!!!
The tooth fairy knew she wasn’t going to be able to find a tiny shard of a tooth in the dark under the pillow of a slobbering child, so we started writing a note on the magna doodle with a circle and arrow pointing to the tooth. In the morning, the tooth was gone and money was in its place (as opposed to all over the floor like when I was a kid because I slept like a dervish.
My parents, of course, only balanced the checkbook the number of times they conceived. I used to tell my kids that I was helping daddy unpack after a trip. And the lies just keep on coming.
OH! And I thought you had come up with a new idea for getting some alone time — mailable kids. Darn! I was already poking air holes in a box.
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We’re usually “taking a nap”, it gets them away from the door fast when we say, “We’re taking a nap, do you need one?”
I, also, stink at the tooth fairy, it took me 3 days to compensate for a tooth once. And, then, even when I did it, he woke up and caught me. I just told him I was checking on him (he sleeps on a top bunk bed) and I hid the envelope under him so he wouldn’t see it and I told him to go back to sleep, then left the room, with the envelope hidden, where he wouldn’t see me holding it. I had to sneak back in a little later and slip it back under his pillow. The next day he said he thought he saw the tooth fairy. He was so groggy, he didn’t even know it was me.
Interesting post… I think the other thing we do is lie to ourselves.
“I shouldn’t be doing this (input whatever not-so-good thing), but it’s just not that bad.” – It may be.
“He doesn’t know, so it won’t hurt him.” Doesn’t make it right.
etc, etc…the ways we lie to ouselves are probably limitless – some may be necessary coping mechanisms and others are serious character defects.
Wait a second right there…don’t go getting all holier than thou on me…I take offense that you think it’s wrong to have sex with the followers of my cult!! (wink)
yeah for like 20 min its a fresh thing the flavors are big so you really dont have to
very cute post!!!!
nice to meet you ~ jess
I’m not willing to give up Santa or the Tooth Fairy either. Especially since my mom told me when you stopped believing in Santa, you stopped getting presents for Christmas. I BELIEVE, I BELIEVE!!!
Deep thoughts again Huh?
I lie quite often. In fact, I’m lying on the couch as we speak!
By the way, I walked in on my parents making out one time….. Why couldn’t they balance their checkbook?
I’ve been reading the posts about the tooth fairy…. I never believed in the tooth fairy OR Santa Claus. In fact I got detention in kindergarten for telling all the other kids there was no Santa and making them cry. But I milked the tooth fairy thing for as long as possible. I remember being like eight years old and I lost a tooth…by that time I was really into my own personal privacy, so I got a ziploc bag and taped the tooth to the door with a note saying, “Dear Tooth Fairy, Please place five dollars in the bag, Thank you for your time.” (I was hoping that Mom and Dad would read the note and just give me $5.00 – I got a quarter) I was really disappointed when my parents figured out that I never believed and consequently stopped giving me money for my teeth.
How much do you thing adult teeth are worth?
I enjoyed the post. No one really wants to lie to their kids but they don’t want the kids to loose the imagination and warm feelings we all had as kids. They don’t want them to grow up that quickly.
Have a great weekend.
So far I’ve gotten lucky with Maya…She likes the stories of Santa Claus but is more excited about celebrating baby Jesus. I don’t think she even believes in Santa, its just a nice story. As for the easter bunny…The pastor of my church dresses up in a pink bunny suit every year. He has a cut out for his face to pop through…Maya has taken to calling him the Chris Bunny. Its very cute.
I REALLY LOVE YOUR HONESTY HRER!!Red dot is funny. But O sweet Angie,don’t ever ask me if you look fat,or does this look alright or blah blah blah,I HAVE NO TACT whatsoever!!!!!!!!!!!!!!